Tom and Craig
From Us to You
These things probably start to sound pretty repetitive after a while but that’s not a bad thing: all of these letters are coming from love and the more love in this world, the better. Here is why we hope you’ll consider us as the parents to love your child.
Looking at our cover page, it’s pretty obvious we were never going to get pregnant. It’s been a dream for both of us, together and separately, to be parents. In fact, we discussed it on our first date as a “deal breaker!” Our hearts are full of joy, love, support, and fun and we have always wanted to share those things with a child in our home as a family. There are multiple ways we could bring a child into our home but open adoption was really the only option that honors everyone involved and that is important to us.
We know you have only the best of intentions for this baby. Our plan is to teach our child that every day when they wake up and when they go to bed they are unconditionally loved. We want them to be happy and safe and to spend their days full of living, learning, and laughing. We hope they are confident no matter their life’s journey, that they will find happiness and success and have people they can count on who they can turn to when things get hard or difficult. We want them to also know that life isn’t always easy and that it can throw all kinds of things at you, but that they should never lose hope or doubt the goodness of other people. And we want our child to know that the idea of “normal” is overrated. Our family, will never look like the typical family from the 1950s -- and thank God! We believe that difference, complexity, and being your true self is beautiful. In our experience, family is made from people choosing to respect and love each other and we want our child to know that we would choose to love them over and over again with our whole selves for all time.
Neither of us have had privileged lives. Both of us have fought through all kinds of adversity to get to where we stand today. Thank you for being strong enough to make this difficult decision for your child, and for being generous enough to make the dreams of one deserving family come true. No matter who you pick or what you decide, we truly respect and honor your decision!
We wish you all the best -- and thanks for your time.
Tom & Craig